THE WORDS OF OUR MOUTH - Part 2

THE WORDS OF OUR MOUTH - Part 2

The Verbal Assassin

In my last post, I talked about murders, who go unpunished.
We are hung by our tongues, how can we say we are full of love when we speak nothing but hate first to ourselves and then to others? 

When we tell a child that they are nothing and will never be anything, it’s not because we believe it about the child, but we think it and believe it about ourselves. This belief is not always in our rational mind but is often hidden deep in our subconscious, where it does the most damage.

We say harsh and hurtful things to others because we subconsciously think it about ourselves. Pure and simple we have an image/identity problem, we look in the mirror and don’t like what we see, instead of changing ourselves we would rather kill someone with our words who reminds us that we are not all we could become. 

Why do we verbally assassinate one another? We aim our words of destruction at the innocent because we fear the process of what it will take to become a better person. We steal joy and hope from others, to avoid the pain of going through the process of growth ourselves. 
In the above text I layout my observations of why we are killers, thieves, and destroyers of all things hopeful, beautiful and different. I will attempt to lay out in this post and the following on a cure for all of this, digging deep into the symptoms of what we see as the issue, all while pointing to the root of, fear, shame, and loathing of self. 

We are who we say we are, but what we say is more than just words, our actions and words make up what we say. Let's take a deep dive into negative self-talk. This is the reason we verbally assault others because we don’t feel good about ourselves.

What is negative self-talk?

I asked Google the same question and here is some of what I found.

self-talk. noun. 1. the act or practice of talking to oneself, either aloud or silently and mentally: positive self-talk.

Self-talk | Define Self-talk at Dictionary.com

www.dictionary.com/browse/self-talk

4 Ways to Stop Beating Yourself Up, Once and For All | Psychology ...

Mar 18, 2016 - 

Negative self-talk can seriously damage your self-esteem and impair your quality of life. Learn how to free yourself from the inner critic. Here is an excerpt from that article.

If you are like most people, you know your inner critic all too well. It is the voice in your head that judges you, doubt you, belittles you, and constantly tells you that you are not good enough. It says negative hurtful things to you—things that you would never even dream of saying to anyone else. I am such an idiot; I am a phony; I never do anything right; I will never succeed. Here are the 4 steps according to the article


1. Notice the critic. To gain control over your inner critic you have to first be aware of it. During every conscious moment, we have an inner dialogue with ourselves. Much of our thinking is so automatic and happening so rapidly that we barely notice it before we move on to the next thought.

2. Separate the critic from you. The inner critic doesn’t want you to notice it. It thrives best when you mistake it for being part of your authentic self. However, you weren’t born with an inner critic. The critic is a voice that you have internalized based on outside influences and learning, such as other people’s criticism, expectations, or standards.

3. Talkback. Talking back to your inner critic is an important part of taking away its power. Simply telling the critic you don’t want to hear what it has to say begins to give you a sense of choice in the matter. When you hear the inner critic start to speak, tell it to go away.

4. Replace the critic. The best way to defeat the critic is to have an even stronger ally on your side. You need to grow an inner voice that acts as your own best friend. To do this, you need to start noticing the good things about yourself.

Negative Self-Talk: 9 Ways To Silence Your Inner Critic | HuffPost

Apr 6, 2013 - Negative Self-Talk: 9 Ways To Silence Your Inner Critic. 420. By Jancee Dunn. 

A little self-criticism is a good thing: It can be a reality check that spurs you to be a better person.
Here are the 9 steps from the article.

1. Put Negative Stuff In A Box
2. Try The Power Of Possible Thinking
3. Ask Yourself If You're Really So Guilty
4. Put A Better Spin On Things
5. Ask: What Would My Best Friend Say?
6. Give Your Inner Critic A Name
7. Give Your Rants A Name, Too
8. Pick Up The Phone
9. Embrace Your Imperfections

As we can see from the above articles negative self-talk is a huge issue, it can be rectified. I am of the mind that this negative self-talk is the root for 90% of all the issues we are facing in our society today. There is an old saying that hurt people hurt people. Most people are suffering from identity issues and negative self-talk. it’s very obvious to me that we have a lot of hurting people in the world today. We have to silence that negative self-talk. Speak with life as the goal, or the cycle of destruction will continue.

These same hurting folks are hurting someone else and so on and so on. The cycle will never end if we don’t recognize the cause, the issue is our tongue we can’t say what we want or what we see. We have the power to create like our Father in heaven. We imagine our worlds with our thoughts. Our thoughts come spilling out of our mouths, are the ones we think the most. Because your lips are not moving does not mean you are not saying something. You speak with your actions along with your words. We have to take hold of our words to build the life we want, that will not only make life better for ourselves but for others. Just like hurt people hurt people, healthy people help people. We have to change what we say, and be what we want and not what we have been. So say something positive today to your self and someone else. If you can't say nothing good, please for the sake of your future don't say anything at all.

THE WORDS OF OUR MOUTH PART 1